Compassionate Schools

Engaging young hearts and minds

The Compassionate Schools programme encourages and empowers conversations in schools and colleges about death and dying so that children and young people are equipped to have a better understanding of loss and the emotions associated with it.

Figures show that one in 29 children are affected by the terminal illness or loss of a close family member – that’s roughly one child in every classroom. We believe it is important that these children feel well supported not only by their class teachers, but also by their fellow pupils and other school staff.

We can provide guidance for a whole school approach to opening discussions, establishing procedures for support, and offering appropriate awareness sessions to staff so they can set children and young people up with compassionate knowledge and skills that they can carry with them into adulthood.

St Luke’s championed the initiative in 2017 and there has been ongoing demand ever since. To date 25 education establishments, including primary, secondary, and higher education, in the city of Plymouth and in the wider communities of West and South West Devon and East Cornwall, have engaged with the programme. Several of these are now proudly recognised as Compassionate Schools while others are working towards achieving this status.

As a charity serving the local community, St Luke’s three-year strategy (2024-2027) prioritises the implementation of the Compassionate Schools programme as a key part of our Community Development work to improve death literacy and build a more compassionate society.

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Compassionate Schools in action

Leigham Primary School, Plymouth, is a shining of example of how becoming a Compassionate School not only benefits children and families coping with loss, but also promotes a more caring, understanding and supportive environment for everyone.

Headteacher Sam Barker said:

“We are incredibly passionate about providing support to bereaved children and families and those going through anticipatory grief. Being recognised as a Compassionate School and hearing about the positive impact of our work on our pupils and families has made this journey so worthwhile.

“Our children are supported by peers (Compassionate Buddies) and adults (Compassionate Friends) in school. Our lunchtime drop-in Starfish Club is incredibly popular and provides a safe space for support, reflection or even a distraction. Our memory tree in the library is a lovely way for families to remember loved ones at special times.

“Our school project has been so well led by Shana Marsh, Gemma Tucker and Tamsin Bentley. It really has become part of what we stand for and weaves through our values at Leigham.

Parent testimonials

“The Compassionate Schools group has had a deeply positive impact on my children following the devastating loss of their beloved daddy who was only 27. The girls were aged six and three at the time.

“When everything felt uncertain and overwhelming, the support we received gave my children a sense of understanding, safety, and belonging that they truly needed. The Compassionate Friends offered them space to express their feelings openly and without judgment and gently guided them through their grief with empathy and care.

“The support wasn’t just emotional; it was practical too. I’ve seen my girls grow stronger, more open, and more able to carry their grief with them in a healthy, supported way. Talking about daddy isn’t so sad any more. The memories are cherished, and we can all talk openly.

“Not every day is easy, but they are certainly easier with the support we receive from Leigham Primary School, even three years on.

“More schools need this in place. Friends I have told about the support we have received don’t have anything like it in their children’s schools. I am so thankful.

“At the end of their foundation year, my sons’ Grandad began to fall very ill with his long-term illness.  St Luke’s were hugely involved and so amazing in supporting and caring for us all. We sadly lost their Grandad on 4 August 2024.

“My family and I were blown away by the compassion and love and support for myself as well as for my boys. From the first day of Year One things were put in place. The boys joined the Starfish Group and the first thing they made was a rainbow. They both came home and put it next to their granddad’s picture where it still sits to this day.

“The Starfish Group is there as and when I need, as are the compassionate, loving teachers who still support my boys, including last week when it was their Grandad’s birthday.”